Remember the Work of Grace

When I was in college a friend told me that one of her friends thought I got everything I wanted. She didn’t even know me, but had watched from afar my entrance and acceleration in my sorority, work on the school newspaper, internships at top daily newspapers and a gang of people to hang with. This woman had long-distance envy, and I, with my sinful gloat coat that all strong black women wear because we do things that people should admire, got a kick out of her envy, thinking, “Dang, it’s too bad she ain’t me.” Continue reading →

7 Habits for Success

In many ways, my life, what I do, is second nature to me. I don’t actively think about how I accomplish my goals while caring for my children and home and cultivating my marriage. But after three people—some with children, some without—within two weeks asked me how I was able to meet my writing deadlines while caring for three young children because they needed help achieving their goals, I then examined my life so I could share my habits for success. I:

First, have vision and understanding, but to see results I have (practice) the following habits:
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Let’s Do This!

Sometimes we don’t do what we know to do because we just don’t know how. Last year I presented a framework to help Christian women to go from calling ourselves strong black women (SBW) to some other name that reflected God. I didn’t have the name at the time, but I have since recognized that the acronym is still SBW, which stands for strong biblical women. I want to revisit that framework in this post because I recognize its structure is universal. You can use it to stop doing whatever wrong you’re doing and replace that with something righteous. Continue reading →

Grow Up

Grow up! You ever issue that challenge to someone? I know I have, usually when I’m just fed up with their Israelite going around the mountain actions. I just want them to get it already. But how many of us have commanded ourselves to grow up? We may have; I know I do when I’m tired of some of my behavior that I should have stopped and replaced with something better a long time ago. The real challenge, though, is going beyond just telling yourself to grow up Continue reading →