Friday Feature: Roundup Four & T-Shirt Winner

  • In the last month I talked about ways to eat wheat- and gluten-free, but some of us need to be careful to monitor the other foods we eat too: Check out the New York Times Op-Ed piece When Food Kills.
  • This site is selling products (that I have not tried so I can’t recommend them) and offers some free tips for dying hair naturally: My Sensitive Skincare

And the winner is:

Our ThinkThis! Designs Eat Well Live Well t-shirt winner is Ajene M. Gailliard. She said she has incorporated more plant-based foods in her diet and regular periods of fasting. The Friday Feature that inspired her the most was on cooking healthy greens, which has inspired her to finish her cookbook and own cooking videos. Ajene blogs at Kingdom Mommy, a site to encourage Christian women with young children to raise them to be strong believers in Christ. Congratulations Ajene and thanks for taking the time to comment. And special thanks to ThinkThis! founder and CEO Nichole M. Christian for sponsoring her t-shirts for my giveaway.

Summer Reading & T-Shirt Giveaway

What Do You Think? Wednesday

Summer is officially here. With summer comes more leisure time and that means more time to read. Next week I’m going to review a book I know you’ll love, but I first had to give you a taste of my own book, Daily Guideposts: Your First Year of Motherhood, with a sample devotional below.

If you’ve been following the blog you’ve heard me promote the book, which debuted in April. Yes, the intended audience is new moms, but don’t let that keep you from reading or supporting me. Reviewer Mahogany Jones, a woman without children, said “This devotional is awesome. It’s interesting because I thought that since I am not a mother, I wouldn’t be able to relate, but it touched me because I was so able to relate to the messages and themes that covered all spectrums of life. I think if you are a mother, that there will not only be practical words of wisdom to apply to your parenting, but I believe that God will meet you where you are, and as a parent you will get to take delight in sharing His attributes, considering He’s the ultimate parent. I definitely recommend this book.” And reviewer Mary Ryan-Maher said Your First Year of Motherhood is “(a)n absolutely beautifully crafted book that while targeted to new mothers also appealed to me – mother of a ten- and seven-year-old. The raw, sometime conflicted and overwhelming emotions of new motherhood are movingly related. I can’t imagine reading only one a day! . . .What a great book – even for those of us who are starting into middle-motherhood!”

Read the excerpt below, pick up a copy for you or a new mom at Family Christian Stores or Amazon, and let me know what you think. Also, don’t forget to enter to win the t-shirt giveaway here on the blog. Check out last week’s Friday Feature for details on how to win. Winners will be announced Friday.

“The LORD [is] gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy” (Psalm 145:8 KJV).

My first impression of Flynn was in ninth-grade government class, where he and his buddy Vojo couldn’t shake the sillies. If the wind blew they laughed, and the only thing I thought was funny was that they thought they were cool. My second impression was at a high school class reunion committee meeting. Flynn’s jokes were jovial, his smile was smooth, and he handled all his reunion business well. That take-charge man became my husband.

Flynn initiated our meals. He planned our dates. He bought me flowers and jewelry I didn’t know I wanted. He washed the dishes and the clothes. He took responsibility and took care of me.
After four years of marital bliss we had Joshua. Flynn-the-dad helped whenever I asked him. But surprisingly, I had to ask. It began to annoy me. Then came a day I was busy with laundry and Flynn commented, “I think I smell the baby’s diaper.” I paused to process the comment. What needed to be done was obvious, but Flynn didn’t get up to do it.

“Well, aren’t you going to change it?” I snapped. He complied; I worried. Where was my take-charge man? Was I becoming a married single mom?

Later that day we talked my fear of Flynn’s in-home abandonment. It turned out he thought I’d adjusted well to having Joshua and that I knew when to ask him for help. What he hadn’t figured out yet was where his fatherhood fit. I looked at my husband, usually so confident, and decided it was okay to claim the role of married single mother for a time so that Flynn could navigate his way into fatherhood.

Remind me, Father, to ask for Your guidance when my husband and I disagree.

Devotional by Rhonda J. Smith originally appeared in Daily Guideposts: Your First Year of Motherhood and is reprinted with permission from Guideposts Books and Inspirational Media, Guideposts.org. Copyright © 2011 by Guideposts. All rights reserved.

Marvel in Small Things

Last weekend was fabulous, likely the best personal getaway I have ever had. I went on a writing retreat with my best friend, Nichole. We wrote in a coffee shop, another time in a tea house, but our main writing space was in a certified Wildlife Habitat, the backyard of the place where we stayed. We saw wood chucks and chipmunks scurrying about; heard unfamiliar birds that flew high and perched themselves in branches some 200 feet in the sky; the oversized squirrels jumped from tree to tree; and a dozen or so unknown insects popped up, including one so small and totally amazing to me. This yellow worm-like bug was no bigger than the tip of my ink pen and would curl itself then bounce in whatever direction it wanted to go. How could God put life in something so miniscule, and not just life but an amazing life capable of doing seemingly impossible feats?

When I saw that bug I marveled at the great love our God has for us. We were made just a little lower than the angels, but compared to God, we are tiny. Yet He put it in us to do great things. He gave me a weekend and allowed me to write two 700-word essays and compile other writings into one file for a book. He gave our husbands grace to care for the children alone AND on Father’s Day weekend. God also allowed us to walk miles, drink coffee and tea, eat Indian, Ethiopian and Cuban food, have short talks about big stuff and to enjoy and fully embrace the little time we had in a place only a short stop away.

Nichole returned home to a broken hammock and I to a vomiting toddler, but the small getaway helped us to forgive and nurture in a big way. Only God has the power to bring greatness from the small and I stand in awe of my Jesus (Psalm 136:4).

Copyright 2011 by Rhonda J. Smith

My One Thousand Gifts List

#101-110
Sweet children sitting at our table at Benihana
A different type of blog post
Picking Joshua up from school on time
Birthday dinner for Renee
Renee saying my “One Thousand Gifts” gift was “prophetic”
Flynn’s willingness to care for the children so I could celebrate with Renee even though he had to study for bible study
Enjoying my children’s laughter
Flynn going to the ATM and getting change for me
A warm coat for Joshua
Xfinity TV on my iPad because of Andrina

Friday Feature: ThinkThis! Designs & Giveaway

We all need encouragement: A look from a different perspective; time spent with a friend; an uplifting message on a card or even a t-shirt, like these:

Photo by Nichole M. Christian

Me in the Walk by Faith shirt


I know you think they’re fabulous and I’m giving away three, compliments of ThinkThis! Designs, whose proprietor and designer is my best friend, Nichole M. Christian. I told you a little about her last year here on the blog but have not told you about her company of t-shirts, greeting cards and journals with inspiring messages. A natural storyteller and frequent t-shirt wearer, Nichole decided in 2009 to try her hand at blending her two loves by inscribing her thoughts on a cotton canvass, carrying her words beyond the page and immediately into the hearts of all who read them.

“I never sat out intentionally to start a t-shirt brand, but I had a great opportunity to share my message. And I love t-shirts,” Nichole said. “The opportunity came at a moment in my life when I needed that (Fear < Hope) message and so I put it on a t-shirt as a reminder to me. I didn’t set out to do anything but to remind myself of a message of what I was faced with in my own life.” The time Nichole speaks of is when she found out she was being laid off as an editorial board writer for the Detroit Free Press. “I printed the shirt three weeks before being laid off and wore it in the newsroom. People asked me about it. By the time I got laid off I had already sold a case of shirts.” [caption id="attachment_3082" align="aligncenter" width="300" caption="Nichole (left) w/Lori Robinson"][/caption]

With other messages to herself sketched in her journals, she decided to transfer those to t-shirts and ThinkThis! Designs was born. I’m not a t-shirt wearer so initially Nichole gave me a complimentary shirt to hook up her girl. Of course I was willing to wear it to help advertise my friend’s business, but since that time I have purchased a few more and find myself in at least two of my four ThinkThis! Designs each week because of the comfort, style and spiritual inspiration of each. To help three of you begin your love affair with ThinkThis! Designs, I’m giving away the Eat Well, Live Well shirt.

For your chance at a t-shirt, just 1) subscribe to the blog (if you haven’t already) and leave a comment on the blog by stating 2) how you have been living (or plan to live) better by a change in your diet and 3) which Friday Feature has inspired you the most and 4) why. Nichole will select the three winners, who will be announced on the blog next Friday.

To see more ThinkThis! t-shirt designs, cards and journals and to purchase merchandise, go to www.thinkthisdesigns.com.

Copyright 2011 by Rhonda J. Smith

Beauty Among Ashes

What Do You Think? Wednesday

I’m a smells and sights girl. I absolutely love scents and beautiful looking things. If it weren’t for the bees (and the fact that I don’t have the time) I could sit in a garden and sniff and spot out flowers all day. Nature’s beauty is the best and I find it a lot in my historical Detroit neighborhood. But like with many challenged urban areas, there are rugged enclaves in refined neighborhoods. One sunny day I wanted to take the boys to the park, but didn’t feel like driving to a nicer one. My neighborhood park is in the rugged area. I knew the children needed to run around more than just in the backyard so I decided to make the trek up the street. Since I hadn’t been in a few years, I thought the park had changed, some improvements had been made. It was the same, maybe worse. The swings were still broken, the grass was too high, the playground equipment was burned, trash was everywhere, and I frowned at it all. All I could see was danger and doom. My sons saw delight.

They sat and swung

And climbed, and crawled and ran in the field, on the jimmy-rigged swing, around the melted stairs, and through streams of glass. And I looked at the blissful children and wanted to claim their bliss, to be ignorant to the blight and see the stronger light of beauty. Their minds were on fun and they looked and saw it and didn’t let the obstacles stop them. I looked back at the grass then saw a meadow of daisies and observed the children and saw some maneuvering kids, making fun with little, close to nothing. I see they have the key. They focused on the expectation, not the presentation and were able to see beyond what they faced.

The Lord hath sent me…to give them beauty for ashes” (Isaiah 61:1, 3).

Jesus says He came to give us beauty for ashes, but sometimes we miss the beauty that is yet among the ashes. We miss the present good clamoring for the coming great (1 Timothy 6:8). This happens to many of us and we need an encouraging word to remind us that even though in our sight there might be a lot of trash, a lot of negativity, hurt and pain, there is beauty all around us, even if it’s just the beauty of knowing someone in your circle cares. We need to be encouraged. Encouragement is a powerful thing.

In addition to smelling and seeing beautiful things, I love giving and receiving well-written cards, particularly those that have a Christian message. Among my favorite are DaySpring cards. I keep boxes of them tucked away to pull out and share at someone’s critical point of need. Most of us know someone who is having a hard time seeing beauty among ashes. Why not send them some encouragement with a DaySpring card? I have the Hope and Encouragement Premium Card Pack of 10 cards, some perfectly specific for certain situations and others general enough to cover any situation without being shallow. They are well-written and pretty, too.

Perhaps my favorite five of DaySpring's Hope and Encouragement Premium Card Pack

These are my personal favorite, but I had a hard time selecting which ones I wanted. Encouragement is the June focus on the (in)courage inspired deals page, where you will find these DaySpring cards and other featured products to strengthen you and those you know are going through.* Check them out and let me know what you think.

*DaySpring gave me the Hope and Encouragement Premium Card Pack for free to review and all opinions expressed are my own.

Copyright 2011 by Rhonda J. Smith