Persecuted for Righteousness

One of my pet peeves is people with little to no knowledge base telling me what to do. I especially take exception when these advisers don’t have an intimate connection with me and try to guide me in critical areas, like raising my children. In these times I find it hard to show grace and the love of Jesus Christ, but these are the instances where grace and love need to be shown the most. Though I know this, my recovering strong black woman self has a hard time being like Christ, but I am working on it by simply clenching my lips or nodding my head or mustering a small smile. I try to do anything to keep my mouth shut so the wrong words don’t come out. What also helps me is that I am probably being persecuted for righteousness’s sake if God told me to do what others are trying to get me to change. Most of us don’t want opposition. Most of us don’t like conflict. Most of us don’t want to hurt, but if we are living for Christ all of these should be expected, and they place us in good company. Read more of my thoughts on this from a parenting perspective (though the points I make apply beyond parenting) in my latest EEW Magazine column that begins below:

One of my relatives has had a lot to say about a lot of my business. She has told me how I should interact with my husband, particularly what I withhold from him (physically, emotionally, information-wise and financially), how I should care for my recovering mother, and how I should parent my children. I would not mind hearing what she has to say if she were being reasonable, if she were giving me practical and godly advice because she saw I lacked wisdom.

No, she just believes that her opinions have merit because “the good Lord has let me live on this earth longer than you.” But her biggest issue is that my husband and I decided to home educate our children. I know homeschooling isn’t novel and parents are opting to educate their children in a number of ways, but to this 70-plus year-old woman, homeschooling is foreign and has no place in our family.

“He’s going to miss the most important day of his life, his first day of kindergarten,” she said after my oldest turned 5.

“Why do you want to do that, Rhonda?” she said another time.

“How is he going to have friends, Rhonda?” she wanted to know.

And each time she commented, like the time I had to tell her she could no longer babysit my son because she defied our instructions in nursing his cold, I said. . .Read more here.

My One Thousand Gifts List

#601-610
Dinner with the Carrs
Cooking dinner early
Polishing my nails
Praying while holding Nate on the kitchen floor
Having a rich time of prayer with Nate
Bobbi watching the boys
Nichole’s book-launch party
Not being rude to someone who clearly snubbed me
Getting a ministry engagement and a possible mistress of ceremony job for just MCing my friend’s party
Hanging and having a good time with Flynn

Eat With Divine Purpose

Sometimes we just don’t seem to have time to think about what we eat. In a rush we get a donut from the snack shop for breakfast; we didn’t have time to make our lunch so we grab fast food; and we forgot to take some meat out the freezer to unthaw to cook for dinner so we just pull together whatever we can. This has happened to most, if not all, of us at one time or another, but for some of us, this is our life. And our life shows it. We have an abundance of health problems, like high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes and irregularity, and accept them as the norm. These are not always normal and studies have shown that we can reverse, not just manage, these issues if we change the way we eat.

You know I’m a testament to changing my health from eating nutritionally. I had to get sick in order to seek good health. Some of you need to seek good health because you are sick, but others of you can prevent bad health if you are proactive now. As Christians, good health should be our goal as we seek to manifest the righteousness that God has already declared us to be in Jesus Christ. Our change comes with a renewed mind and then a renewed plan.

The plans of the diligent lead surely to plenty, (b)ut those of everyone who is hasty, surely to poverty(Proverbs 21:5-KJV).

To help you renew your mind, I urge you to meditate on that scripture. The writer tells us that if we have a plan and are diligent, we without a doubt will have what we need, in our case good health from what we eat. But when we are hasty, we will lack, in our case good health from what we eat. So as you meditate on this I want you to understand that there are areas concerning your health that you can control. Also, meditate on scriptures that charge us to be like Christ, such as “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:5) and “Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth” (Colossians 3:2-NKJV). When we saturate our minds on favorable outcomes, we will automatically seek to manifest those outcomes (Luke 6:45).

After our minds have been renewed we can develop a plan that we are more likely than not able to stick with:

Have healthy eating goals in mind. We can only reach goals if we know what they are. Setting a few goals at a time prevents us from being overwhelmed, which often leads to defeat.

Create a grocery list that reflects goals. Always create a list BEFORE going to the store and stick with it. Make sure to eat before going to lessen the chance of unhealthy foods getting into your basket.

Develop a meal plan. Ideally, this is done before creating a grocery list so the list reflects the meal plan. Having a meal plan helps us not to over-shop and, thus, overspend.

Plan time to prepare meals. Just like we know how much time it takes for us to shower and get dressed, we must know how much time it takes to prepare our meals. Knowing this allows us to carve out time to prepare and cook. We can eliminate another activity, like that extra few minutes of sleep or a TV program, and use the time to fix a healthy meal.

Plot out healthy restaurants in the area. Sometimes the schedule may be too tight to prepare a healthy meal so we have to go to a restaurant. Knowing the locations near wherever we will be of restaurants that serve healthy meal options will help us not to deviate far from our goals.

With a renewed mind and a renewed plan, we are able to eat with a divine purpose in mind: to be the best we can be so we can give our best to and for the very best, our Lord Jesus Christ. Let’s eat with a divine purpose in mind so we can do our part to develop the Kingdom of God.

Using the Wrong Tools

What Do You Think? Wednesday

About two months ago my husband bought us a new set of knives. I was so thankful that I would finally have the tool I needed to open up those young coconuts that I had recently incorporated into my food regime. Before I got the proper knife, a Santoku, I used a regular kitchen blade that required me to hack a coconut several times, splattering its woody shavings all around my kitchen. After draining stray shavings from the water and removing shreds from the meat, I was finally able to use the coconut water and its meat in a variety of drinks and meals. I hated the mess that the wrong tool caused; the damage was totally avoidable, thus unnecessary. The wrong tool—person, method, message, or any wrong instrument used to get a job done can cause a great big mess like using a blade instead of a Santoku when opening up a young coconut. With the wrong tool, we can leave a friendship hanging in the balance, damage a professional rapport, nullify a winning project and close the ears of those who need to hear from us.

At times we, recovering strong black women, in an effort to keep up pace, might in haste use the wrong tool to get a job done. We may speak harshly when correcting the children, huff to convey frustration with a co-worker, roll our eyes in anger at the husband, take back a task assigned to a worker or yell at a slow driver. Of course these are just some examples of wrong tools used to inflame and bring great damage to those receiving your tool. Undoubtedly cleaning up a coconut and then using it is less of a problem than damaging people and having to deal with them in the tool shattering aftermath. We must consider AND use the proper tool to bring about the best outcome. Choose your tools wisely so you don’t make and have to clean up an avoidable mess.

What tools have you used that have caused unintended and avoidable damage? What tools do you know you need to use instead of those you’ve used in haste? Please, let me know what you think.

Forever Thankful


Loving my freedom
Living my life
All because of US soldiers and Jesus Christ
Laying down their lives

I honor and thank them this Memorial Day.

May God bless you today as you remember those who gave their lives for us to live ours.

My One Thousand Gifts List

591-600
Perfecting my gluten-free pancake recipe
Family Fun Day at Joshua’s school
The kids in bed before 9 p.m.
Folding laundry
God speaking to me to cuddle with my husband when I didn’t want to
A devotional time where God challenged me and to share with others to think about the joy set before us from the crosses we must bear
Shopping at Forman Mills where I got two handbags, two skirts and shoes for Nate
Designer boots at a resale shop for $11
Buying items to create a new idea
Tabitha available to watch the boys

Friday Feature: Roundup Fifteen

This fourth Friday brings the following links that complement my Friday Feature posts this month:

The Art of Juicing

The Incredible Powers of Celery Juice by Sheryl Walters

The Four Superfoods That I Consume on a Regular Basis by Maxwell Goldberg

10 Organic Foods You’ll Always Find in My Kitchen by Maxwell Goldberg